I'm gettin a divorce

[TurcoLoco]

Sorry about the divorce part Martin. A close friend is going through the same thing and even though his wife didn't work or contributed to the house he pretty much paid on his own, now she wants half! She also wants financial support during the divorce is finalized since she didn't have an income and gues want, women can easily get that OK'ed by the court!!!

His only advice for me on marriage; prenuptial agreement and I began to agree with him regardless of how unromantic it might seem cause after all when .hit hits the fan women turn into greedy demonic witches (no offense Judy and Hey)

Btw, don't get drunk and try to work on the site please! I was going to say keep your chin up but with all these hunnies, I doubt you would be able to keep your head down!

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I REALLY should have gotten a pre-nup LOL she's trying to make me sell everything and take half the cash.... I just a few days ago got my '68 mustang back on the road but don't have a friggin camera to get some pictures up! The girls are lovin the mustang but I've narrowed things down to just seeing 1 person right now. She's a nurse, works nights (3*12's) and is real cool.... She makes over 50k/yr and actually buys ME stuff all the time LOL she usually grabs for her wallet when we're out alot quicker than I reach for mine.... So for now at least its a ton of fun. I keep waiting for her to show that total ***** side that all women have LOL.

I've been drinkin quite a bit lately so I know to stay away from the server

[jholland1964]

Ok ~TL you opened the door....

......women turn into greedy demonic witches (no offense Judy and Hey)

What about the total slugs around....my "ex" son-in-law for example...who told my daughter the week before their daughter's 1st birthday, in front of their then 3 year old son, that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore and WALKED out! He then insisted they go ahead with the giant 1st birthday party HE WANTED for their daughter the next week and expected my daughter to be there and smile.
He then refused to sign divorce papers for nearly 2 years because his "little hottie" was pregnant and of course he couldn't get married to her because he wasn't divorced! He still hasn't married her by the way, though they live together with their 10 month old son. He got ticked off because my daughter forced him to sell his beloved truck because the loan was in both their names and he wasn't making payments so her credit rating was going down the tubes. So he then insisted that they sell their house unless she bought him out, he didn't care where she and kids moved he just wanted out of the mortgage...the judge overruled that and ruled that she could keep the house IF she got her own mortgage but that he would have to pay her the lost equity since she had to remortgage in order to keep the house and therefore lost the $6000 equity they had built up in the house. The judge ordered him to pay that to her...he never has. He is nearly $1000 behind in child support because he is only paying the amount decreed when they first separated, which at least he is doing that, but the amount ordered in the divorce is more than that and he has never increased it. He is also supposed to pay 1/2 medical, 1/2 extra-curricular fees..soccer, baseball, gymnastics, 1/2 dental, 1/2 clothing, 1/2 prescription drugs and 1/2 my grandson's allergy shots...he has never paid a dime of any of that, ever. He also owes her for HIS half of four birthday parties, 1/2 a camp fee and he had the gall to use HER insurance to pay for HIS tonsillectomy because he had it done BEFORE the divorce and she couldn't take him off the policy until the divorce was final. So don't try to say that all women turn into "greedy demonic witches" when they get divorced. None of this money is for her...it is for the care of their children, but she is doing it virtually alone because he is not pulling his weight. Of course she could take him back to court, but you can't get blood out of a stone. Personally, he is a decent father but financially he sucks.

[Gizmokid2005]

Ok ~TL you opened the door....
What about the total slugs around....my "ex" son-in-law for example...who told my daughter the week before their daughter's 1st birthday, in front of their then 3 year old son, that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore and WALKED out! He then insisted they go ahead with the giant 1st birthday party HE WANTED for their daughter the next week and expected my daughter to be there and smile.
He then refused to sign divorce papers for nearly 2 years because his "little hottie" was pregnant and of course he couldn't get married to her because he wasn't divorced! He still hasn't married her by the way, though they live together with their 10 month old son. He got ticked off because my daughter forced him to sell his beloved truck because the loan was in both their names and he wasn't making payments so her credit rating was going down the tubes. So he then insisted that they sell their house unless she bought him out, he didn't care where she and kids moved he just wanted out of the mortgage...the judge overruled that and ruled that she could keep the house IF she got her own mortgage but that he would have to pay her the lost equity since she had to remortgage in order to keep the house and therefore lost the $6000 equity they had built up in the house. The judge ordered him to pay that to her...he never has. He is nearly $1000 behind in child support because he is only paying the amount decreed when they first separated, which at least he is doing that, but the amount ordered in the divorce is more than that and he has never increased it. He is also supposed to pay 1/2 medical, 1/2 extra-curricular fees..soccer, baseball, gymnastics, 1/2 dental, 1/2 clothing, 1/2 prescription drugs and 1/2 my grandson's allergy shots...he has never paid a dime of any of that, ever. He also owes her for HIS half of four birthday parties, 1/2 a camp fee and he had the gall to use HER insurance to pay for HIS tonsillectomy because he had it done BEFORE the divorce and she couldn't take him off the policy until the divorce was final. So don't try to say that all women turn into "greedy demonic witches" when they get divorced. None of this money is for her...it is for the care of their children, but she is doing it virtually alone because he is not pulling his weight. Of course she could take him back to court, but you can't get blood out of a stone. Personally, he is a decent father but financially he sucks.

That sounds kinda familiar....My father was supposed to pay 75% of all medical, dental, etc...never ponied up, he was too engrossed in his new wife, whom I do NOT get along with, that he would throw me to a babysitter on the every other weekend that I was there because she was more important...

[Heylinder]

Ok ~TL you opened the door....
What about the total slugs around....my "ex" son-in-law for example...who told my daughter the week before their daughter's 1st birthday, in front of their then 3 year old son, that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore and WALKED out! He then insisted they go ahead with the giant 1st birthday party HE WANTED for their daughter the next week and expected my daughter to be there and smile.
He then refused to sign divorce papers for nearly 2 years because his "little hottie" was pregnant and of course he couldn't get married to her because he wasn't divorced! He still hasn't married her by the way, though they live together with their 10 month old son. He got ticked off because my daughter forced him to sell his beloved truck because the loan was in both their names and he wasn't making payments so her credit rating was going down the tubes. So he then insisted that they sell their house unless she bought him out, he didn't care where she and kids moved he just wanted out of the mortgage...the judge overruled that and ruled that she could keep the house IF she got her own mortgage but that he would have to pay her the lost equity since she had to remortgage in order to keep the house and therefore lost the $6000 equity they had built up in the house. The judge ordered him to pay that to her...he never has. He is nearly $1000 behind in child support because he is only paying the amount decreed when they first separated, which at least he is doing that, but the amount ordered in the divorce is more than that and he has never increased it. He is also supposed to pay 1/2 medical, 1/2 extra-curricular fees..soccer, baseball, gymnastics, 1/2 dental, 1/2 clothing, 1/2 prescription drugs and 1/2 my grandson's allergy shots...he has never paid a dime of any of that, ever. He also owes her for HIS half of four birthday parties, 1/2 a camp fee and he had the gall to use HER insurance to pay for HIS tonsillectomy because he had it done BEFORE the divorce and she couldn't take him off the policy until the divorce was final. So don't try to say that all women turn into "greedy demonic witches" when they get divorced. None of this money is for her...it is for the care of their children, but she is doing it virtually alone because he is not pulling his weight. Of course she could take him back to court, but you can't get blood out of a stone. Personally, he is a decent father but financially he sucks.

I've been in your daughters shoes. There are plenty of dirt bag ex-husbands out there that don't want to pay for their children and the mother ends up footing the entire bill. Beats me why the "other woman" would want to have the cheating husbands child when they don't even take care of the legitimate children

[TurcoLoco]

Ok, fine, both genders got some shady, undesirables no doubt so I felt bad that my comment generalized it a bit more than I intended it to so I am sawwie!
I guess whoever acts the first becomes the bad one while the other one gets to be the ones that got screwed?

But I do agree with you Hey, I have seen so many examples of the similar situation where either gender was the 'bad' one yet they almost instantly managed to hook up with another person and even got them pregnated, etc.
It always made me wander how these Jerry Springer material people could get hooked up so easily when the new person already had a pretty good idea about what kinda person he/she was getting involved with. The only thing that made sense to me was: "They probably are equally crazy or trashy enough to deserve one another!".

[jholland1964]

I guess whoever acts the first becomes the bad one while the other one gets to be the ones that got screwed?

Not necessarily. Obviously there are nasty folks on both sides. Probably, divorce is never fair to anyone...well that too is a generalization that isn't right either...put it this way, it is never fair to the KIDS, ever. Even if the most financially able parent, and I do know a couple of Mom's who have to contribute more to the financial well being of the kids because they make more money, pays the money the kids suffer emotionally because they never have both parents together, happy in the home. My daughter and husband do agree on discipline and that type of thing, they also confer and discuss very rationally matters which involve the kids, she just is the one who must come forth with the cash because if she waits for him, the kids suffer. Right now they are too young to know the truth, some day they will.
One thing here in this state, the parent paying the child support is generally responsible for this until the child is 23 or graduates from college, whichever comes first. Now years ago this was not the case, child support ran until the child was 18. My cousin divorced 20+ years ago, she had custody of their two children who were in elementary school at the time. Her ex had to pay child support (he was such a nice guy before they divorced that he actually left his son's 1st Communion Party because he had a date!...we found that out later though most of us suspected this was why he had to leave at the time) He DID always pay the support but most of the time never showed up to see the kids when he was supposed to. Anyway, when their oldest turned 18 he took her back to court to remove the child's name from the support order and have the amount reduced. He got a big surprise. The judge looked at the support amount ordered, probably 10 years before, and realized that she had never requested more and that it had never been adjusted since the first order, even for inflation, which was supposed to be automatic. So her ex "won"...the judge did remove the oldest child from the support order, but then did the adjusting for inflation and he ended up paying the same amount he had paid for the two plus $25 more a week for the remaining child for another 3 years!

[TurcoLoco]

I am not so sure, often women will act like the 'victim' but that might not be the case, also another thing that I am not so sure about is the child support figures. I am not saying that the parent who is not taking care of the kid(s) shouldn't pay any but from what I have seen two people I know were paying for a shild seemed a bit high, especially when the person paying the child support was not even making enough to survive! If I am not mistaken, this one guy was paying close to $500 a month for child support (1 kid) where his net monthly income was under $1600!! This was years ago but in California, where one person can not survive on $1100 a month! And I knew the woman receiving the child support, I seriously doubt she spend more than a quarter of it on the poor kid.

Who is the real victim, well the kid at the very least!

Of course, you can always argue saying kids cost a lot etc. and I know but one thing I am doubtful about is that the mother who is receiving the support $$ really spending the money on the kid(s) and not on her personal shopping.

Why do you think I have remained a child-less bachelor into my 30s (and no, not because PP is my mentor)! lol...ok, today was my first day at work so give me some credit if it sounded like I was talking out of my rear!

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Well I thought I'd update this one... Like Thursday/Friday my wife was REALLY trying to "work things out" but at the end of each night she was demanding I dump my g/f and make a bunch of changes to myself and I was just like FU I'm having fun... Still with the same girl thats a nurse... I'm with her every day. She's fallen for me and will do anything for me now and doesn't demand anything from me. Basically I'm in a position where I know the wife will be around for a while but I'm just happier without her. When given the choice between being with the wife and being with my g/f it's seriously an easy answer.

[Heylinder]

Both women should run the other from you .... really fast.