I'm back with the problem solved;

Long story short; (skip to the last paragraph)

I only have one floppy drive and two computers.... So this means the whole time I was moving the floppy drive back and forth between my old computer and the new motherboard.. I tried about 3 itterations of bios settings with 4 different driver versions, with about 3 other ways to install a different legacy driver pack and didn't get anywhere!!! This is alot of floppy drive swapping, unplugging/plugging in power cables etc.. Finally I stumbled on an abit nf4 sata raid guide that mentioned enable RAID GLOBALLY, on every device in the bios, IDE 1 primary, master/slave, IDE2 secondary, master/slave, sata1 primary secondary, sata2 primary secondary.. I had this set once before, but didn't try every driver pack with RAID set GLOBALLY.. So finally I was getting the xp txt setup F6 floppy drivers to load and recognize the array, but not my exact file system/partion information, instead of just saying no drives found etc.. this is progress, that is untill I couldn't get anymore headway with making a slipstream disc to test and install these driver versions.. In the middle of making some progress last week and then manually making a slipstream disc I managed to jumper my clear cmos to defaults, then re-enabled RAID only on the sata ports, so I was using an unworkable bios configuration and couldn't get my slipstream disc to work at all.... I had to start over, test each driver to find a good one, etc. And was seriously tired of swapping the floppy drive between computers..

So I gathered up all the drivers that I could remember seeing the raid array, then moved the whql signed driver packs of those over to a CD, Put the floppy drive back on the new board, booted a windows 9x boot floppy, brought the new cd containing all the whql driver versions over to the new pc's cdrom, then took out the boot floppy, put in a blank floppy, copied the contents from a whql signed nforce4 chipset driver pack's NVRAID folder onto the blank floppy, took out the cd, put in my windows disc, then rebooted... Press f6 at the setup screen, so I had to do this over and over about 3 times before I found the newest "latest" version that showed my exact file system rather than a bootable partition c and the rest unpartitioned space, alot of the other versions identified a C: partition and the rest of the array as unpartitioned space, so I don't want these, and didn't want the ones where after going through the f6 driver selection and pressing enter to contintue to setup windows, NO drives are found etc...

I made a note of which newest whql signed driver version was seeing ALL the partitions, commited those drivers along with a couple other applications that I had to download, isobuilder, nLite etc, onto a cdr, then moved all that over to a computer that has xp already running with dot net and a cdrw drive, then copied off my CD, applications/ driverer versions etc to a new folder on the hard drive of this other computer, installed Nlite, then programmed Nlite to import single raid drivers, as per that guide, then imported the rest of the nvidia chipset drivers, and finally used Nlite to weed out a bunch of international bloat, about 200megs worth of junk that nobody uses, clicked build iso, then burned a new slipstream disc and viala! now I'm into some burn in tests with my new computer. all I have to say is "W HAT T HE H ELL"

This wasn't fun, oh well, atleast I'm saving like 1000 bucks on a new kick ass PC